Marriage, Sex, and Family, Part 3 – Weddings, Divorce, and Remarriage

(Continued from Part 2.)

Marriage – Why Is Getting Married and Having a Wedding Party Important?

Like Jesus made a blood covenant with us – by his own blood – taking us as His bride, so that we would be One flesh with Him by His Holy Spirit indwelling us – giving us new birth. Communion is another symbol of this.

We eat so the flesh and blood become part of us. In the same way we become One flesh with our spouse through intimacy. And through that intimate love – kids are made, in our image.

And in that same way – when we walk intimately with our Lord, God, and Best Friend, Jesus – then we bear fruit and lead others to also discover and receive through Jesus, to become kids of God the Father. We lead others to Jesus. Our lives are transformed. We hear His voice.

We follow Him. We make a difference for Heaven – on Earth.

Like the veil in the Old Testament Temple keeping people from the holy of holies, the core of the temple (our bodies are called the temple of the Holy Spirit) was torn from top to bottom when Jesus died, gave his blood and paid for our sins – so the virgin bleeds on the wedding night as the veil, the hymen, hiding the way to the holy of holies, and the true foundation to God-ordained fruitfulness, is broken through by her husband. That is how holy and God-blessed sex is.

As the Father is the only one who knows when Jesus will be allowed to come back to earth and gather his bride – his Church, his children – and must have patience to reach that union with us – to gather us to heaven – so a bride and a groom must wait to have sexual union until the day of the marriage feast.

Some of the Loving God-ordained Principles at Play Here Are

• You leave your father and mother and become ONE flesh – you know each other intimately
• Everything in the Bible points to it being a VERY big thing – a very important thing. It is a bringing together of 2 families! Huge! It is the celebration of love. It is for the rest of life. It is to bring children into the world – out of love. It is for better or worse.
• Everything points to it being only good, natural, and right – that you want to celebrate this decision with those closest to you and to have your church involved and have a blessing on the decision. It is a HUGE decision to start a family together. To live together for the rest of your lives.
• Also – the only way to break a marriage is by one of the people having sex outside the marriage – or dying. Therefore, waiting with sex with your mate till after marriage, is also a holiness and self-control test.
• It is also built in this way so that sex does not disturb the picture of a man and a woman first becoming friends and actually liking to be together – not just for the sex.
• White Bride Dreams
• Why is it that it is such a big deal for a girl to be the white bride? Why does it seem to somehow be built into every girl? Like so many other things it is hardwired into her to long for that and dream about that. Why? The Bible clearly says: We are called by God to be the white dressed bride of Christ – His Church, His pure bride, washed clean by the blood – that cleanses us completely and makes us white as snow – sin free, pure, and holy 100% in the eyes of God! She has kept herself pure in devotion and sexual desire and unity – for her husband – and is now ready for marriage, unity, love, kids, family etc. That is how we are to see our relationship with Jesus as well.

Is any resistance you have to Christian Biblical values coming from liking sex and having already crossed that line?

A great question to ask – if you are not wanting to get married is – is it really an excuse for just wanting sex now? Or a justification of having already had sex – and not wanting to stop that – no matter what the perfect will of God is?

Do you truly believe that the loving rules of God – are loving (for you, others, and God) – and freeing, and truthful, and eternal?

The ‘Why Not?’ Question

Why Would You Not Want to Have a Party – Before Sex and Before Marriage?

If you argue that no wedding party is needed. Some great questions to ask yourself are. Why not? It’s a great opportunity to show your faith to your friends, neighbors, and colleagues.

Have you truly, really paused, given it deep, honest, and willing thought, and fully submitted to God’s ideal plan for you – being willing to do it no matter what it is – as long as it is love, holy, just, matching His beautiful plan for all?

While knowing that He is all about forgiveness and second chances while not permitting sin.

If you really have paused and surrendered and let Jesus be the Lord – not just your Servant (which He also crazily is) the conclusion should be that you want to submit and wait as that is the will of God as revealed in the Bible.

We Lack the Money to Do a Big Party – What Do We Do?

What about the money it takes to “do a big wedding in the right way”? The money and size of the party is not the core of being married – the heart is. The commitment to God is. The commitment to purity is. The commitment to doing this for the rest of life – before sex – is. The commitment to raising kids together, building a family and the celebration of that major love and life milestone is.

Living a Principled, Obedient, and Disciplined Christian Life

If there are sicknesses, accidents, disobedience, failure or sin or other circumstances – then that does not change the principles of purity, devotion, holiness, and the principle of one man with one wife for life.

The Second Definition We Need to Get Is Then

When Are You Married – According to the Bible?

When 2 adults freely agree to live together for life before God, family, friends, and society. The natural thing for truly born-again spirit filled Christians is to get engaged, then have a wedding party where they publicly commit to each other before God and man.

Then they should consummate that commitment in sexual union – and live radical committed Christian lives – running to fulfill the purposes of God for them individually and together. Teaming up to see each other living the Jesus life, the calling and purposes of God for each of them – to the MAX.